Thuh Followeeng Konsepts Ahr In Thuh Paeej AT

InTihmuhsee Prefs Uhv Ahl Ryt And Lyf Izm Kynd Typs Ohrdrd By Syz

Human UniTed Nations Reespekted SexuaL Orientations


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This ScripT Iz Proh "OpshuhnuL KuhnsenT Tu ( Wuhn Ohr Sum Nevr AhL ) WahnT(s)"!!!


InTihmusee Prefs** Ahr ( AbsTinnehnss Optss Ohr Fanntuhsee Optss Ohr Mrj Optss Ohr Fuk Optss )


AbsTinnehnss

Iz Fohnehtik Eeng-Glish Voeess Sownd Synz

Fohr Wrd Nohrm Speld "Abstinence"

Uhv InTihmuhsee Prefs Uhv Lyf Izm Kynd Typs Ohrdrd By Syz

An AbsTinance IsT Now Non Duz Sum Theeng Ohr Theengz:

1: Maybee Lyk Non-Fantasyz UhbowT Beeyeeng Neer ( 1 Ohr Multi ) Lihveeng ( Beest(s) EspeshuLLee Human(s) )

2: And Maybee Lyk Non-PuT A Mem Uhv ( 1 Pahrt Ohr Multi-Pahrts ) Dif Liveeng ( Beest Esp. Human ) Bod In ( 1 Pahrt Ohr Multi-Pahrts ) Uhv 1'z Self-Bod

3: And Maybee Lyk With ( Pahrt Ohr Ahl ) Uhv ( Self-bod And|Ohr Dif-Lyv-Self-Bod ) __ Now __Non-( Fuk = Fuck )-Intuu ( Uh Pahrt Ohr Ahl ) Uhv Uh Dif-Lyv-Self-Bod (Such Az ( Lyf Dik Ohr Tek DiLdoh Ohr Klit Ohr Lyf ( Vajjynuh = Vagina ) Ohr { ( Ahrtiffishul Vajynuh = Artificial vagina ).

Self Myt Hohpfullee ( Non-Fantasyz And Non-PuT-A-Mem-In And Non-( Fuk = Fuck )** ) Pree Min 1 Uhv Thuh Followeeng:

**Pree Praktisseeng

1:1: " Ahr Yuu Sik WiTh Ehnee ( Disease = Diss-Eez )? "

1:2: " *Duu Yuu Hav* Ehnee snot grohn Fruhm Fluu Vyruhss Ohr Fruhm Smohkeeng? "__

1:3.1: " Duu Yuu Hav __ ( S T D = { Sex Tranzmitubul Diss-Eez = ( Sexually Transmitable Disease ) } ) Jrmz__? "

1:3:2: Yuu Myt Chuuz Tu Dreem,

  • " If 1 Iz Neg ( Nehvr Had 1 Uhv Thuh S T D Kyndz )
    • " Tho Thuh Uhthr Iz Poz ( Haz Min 1 Uhv Thuh S T D Kyndz "
  • Ohr " If Bohth Hav Ehnee Dif Numbr Uhv S T D Kyndz "
    • " Then it Iz Non-Needed Tu Reeveel Ehnee Mohr S T D Infoh. "

1:3:3: " Duu Yuuu Need Tu Yuuz { See https://www.datingpositives.com }? "

1:3: " Duu Yuu Hav Ehnee ( cuhntaeegion = contagion ) Ohr Ehnee Uhthr Intihmuhsee-Spred Suffreeng? "

1:4: " Will U Deskryb Min 1 Uhv Yohr InTihmusee Prefs** Az ( Dreem Prefss Ohr Mrj Prefss Ohr Fuk Prefss )? "

2: And Pree Ther Kuhnsent Tu ( 1 Ohr Multi ) Uhv Thuh Intihmuhsee PrefsAz ( Dreem Prefss Ohr Mrj Prefss Ohr Fuk Prefss )

3: And Mohst Impohrtantlee Aftr Ther Non0kuhnsent Tu ( 1 Ohr Multi ) Uhv Thuh Intihmuhsee Prefs Az ( Dreem Prefss Ohr Mrj Prefss Ohr Fuk Prefss ).


Baeesik Intihmuhsee Prefs:

A HeTerosexuaL IsT, A.K.A. HeT MaiT ) Now This Wuhn Tym GeTs Ohr Tend Tu Suhm Tymz GeT ) InTimmaT Ohr ( Now FLesh Duz Ohr Dreemz Uhv Ohr Theengks Uhv ) InTimmassee wiTh Wuhn Ohr Mohr BeesTs Uhv A Dif Jendr.

HomosexuaLz ( A.K.A. Gayz Ohr Saym SexT MayTs ) now { Duhz Ohr TheengksUv Ohr { Free Lee LeTs } } Sex WiTh Thuh Saym Jendr.

Gay, Wich iz ( Lez Galz Ohr Fag Gyz) In A ( Simp Gay Pehr Ohr Grwp Uhv Gayz ).

If Thuh Gay Ohr UhThr MaiTs Ahr OpshuhnuL KuhnsenT IsTs And Pref Tu Non Skin Trez And Tu Non Rape, Then Less Than Wuhn Shaym SkripT AhThohryzd Twohrdz Ther Iz Good Norm Hab Tu Rep Task Aiz And Tu Teech UhThrz Fohr Ther ATTiTTwdz Twohrdz Thohz Good MaiTs.

A Bisexual MaiT, Ohr Simp Li Bi, now Duhz, Dreemz Ohr Theengks Uhv InTimmassee wiTh 2 Dif SexT BeesTs.

Simp HeT InTimmuhsee Iz Wuhn Gy BeesT And Wuhn GaL BeesT Hw Suhm Tymz DaiT, MaiT And|Ohr Maybee Wed Aiz, And They MyT OpT Tu Uhgree Tu ModdesTee Ohr Tu AkT Az InTimmaT BeesTs.

Gy Mohr HeT InTimmuhsee Iz Wuhn Gy Now WiTh Mohr Than Wuhn GaL Hw Ahr Now AiThr OpshuhnaL Li InTimmaT, Grwp MaiTs And|Ohr Maybee Wed Aizd And A.K.A. Polygyny. Sum Tymz A GaL In A Polygynous Grwp MyT OpT Tu AkT Lez Ohr Bi.

GaL Mohr HeT InTimmuhsee Izm Iz Wun GaL WiTh Mohr Than Wuhn Gy Hw Ahr Now AiThr OpshuhnaL Li InTimmaT, A MaTe Grwp Ohr Wed Aizd, A.K.A. Polyandry. Sum Tymz A Gy In A Polyandrous GrwP MyT OpT Tu AkT Suhm Tymz Fag Ohr Bi.

HermafrodiTe in Simp Lang Iz Maf.

Gay Mafs kan geT kahLd a Maf pehr ohr a Maf Grwp.

A Trisexual A.K.A. Wuhn WiTh [[[Three Dif Djendrd ImTimmaT PahrTnrz]] Now Theengks Uhv, Dreemz Uhv Ohr Duhz InTimmassee WiTh EgzakT Li Three Djendrz.

Momogamy iz having and Luving jusT wun sex parTner or spowss.

Polyamory iz luveeng mohr Than wun uThr dring Thuh saym Tym.

Polygamy Iz Having Mohr Than Wun Sex ParTnr or Spowss, ideally wiTh As SmahL UmounT Uv jealousy Az PossibL.

Serial Monogamy iz having wun parTnr dring a Tym ( in seekwenss ohr Taking Trnz ) ahr The mosT common wayz uv Polygamy.

An Ohrjee iz when 3 ohr mohr fohk uhgree Tu hav sex wiTh eech uhThr.


PrsuhnaL Spaiss Iz Wun'z ( Aura = Mag FeeLd ).

( Mohr Fahr Uhway Frum Self Bod ) Iz ( Less PrsuhnuL Spayss ).

Wen U FrsT See An UThr Prsuhn, IT Iz kuhnsidraT and PoLiTe Tu:

1: MenTalyThink Uv ThaT Prsuhn Az:
* Non-inTihmaT (STranger=STraindjr)
* ( Lyf Ohr Tek ) ChyLd Uhv
* ( Thuh Now Tranz FynyT Mynd = Thuh ALL ParenT ).

2: Non-PuT In Ohr Neer Thuh UThr Prsuhn'z Bod A Dreemd KLohn Uhv Wuhn'z SeLf Bod.

3: PrakTiss Wun Uv Thuh ( Civil RighTs = SihviL RyTs ) Tu Try Tu REED Lrn:
3.1 Maybee Wuhn Ohr Suhm Uhv Ther InTresT(s),
3.2: Maybee Ther ( ( Sepraishuhn Vrsuhs ( InTihnassee = ( InSyd Mag FeeLd ) ) Pref ),

4. If Wuhn Ohr BeTr Mohr Uhv ThaT Wuhn'z MayBee Shehrd InTresTs And|Ohr InTihmuhsee Prefs Ahr KumpaTTibL WiTh A ( Dreem Ohr UhThr AkT ), Then MayBee Ask Prmishuhn Tu Dreem ThaT KuhmpaTibL Dreem Ohr Doo ThaT KuhmpaTibL UhThr AkT.

Eech Uv Thuh InTihmuhsee Prefs Ahr Sum Tymz ( { NachruL Lee WahnTEd} Ohr { Suhm Tymz KonchusLee Chohz} Ohr { Sum Tymz PahrT ToT Tu Ohr PahrT Lrnd By Wuhn Hw Haz Non YeT KompreehendEd A PahrT Uhv ThaT InTihmuhsee Pref), Tho Eech PahrT Uv Eech Uhv Thuh InTihmuhsee Prefs Shoud Nevr Bee ThoT Uv Az MandiTory or ObLigaTory Tu Lrn Ohr Chooz Tu AkT.


Sex Prefs Uhv InTihmuhsee Prefs

Sex Prefs Deskrybd

A HeTerosexuaL IsT, A.K.A. HeT MaiT ) Now This Wuhn Tym GeTs Ohr Tend Tu Suhm Tymz GeT ) InTimmaT Ohr ( Now FLesh Duz Ohr Dreemz Uhv Ohr Theengks Uhv ) InTimmassee wiTh Wuhn Ohr Mohr BeesTs Uhv A Dif Jendr.

HomosexuaLz ( A.K.A. Gayz Ohr Saym SexT MayTs ) now { Duhz Ohr TheengksUv Ohr { Free Lee LeTs } } Sex WiTh Thuh Saym Jendr.

Gay, Wich iz ( Lez Galz Ohr Fag Gyz) In A ( Simp Gay Pehr Ohr Grwp Uhv Gayz ).

If Thuh Gay Ohr UhThr MaiTs Ahr OpshuhnuL KuhnsenT IsTs And Pref Tu Non Skin Trez And Tu Non Rape, Then Less Than Wuhn Shaym SkripT AhThohryzd Twohrdz Ther Iz Good Norm Hab Tu Rep Task Aiz And Tu Teech UhThrz Fohr Ther ATTiTTwdz Twohrdz Thohz Good MaiTs.

A Bisexual MaiT, Ohr Simp Li Bi, now Duhz, Dreemz Ohr Theengks Uhv InTimmassee wiTh 2 Dif SexT BeesTs.

Simp HeT InTimmuhsee Iz Wuhn Gy BeesT And Wuhn GaL BeesT Hw Suhm Tymz DaiT, MaiT And|Ohr Maybee Wed Aiz, And They MyT OpT Tu Uhgree Tu ModdesTee Ohr Tu AkT Az InTimmaT BeesTs.

Gy Mohr HeT InTimmuhsee Iz Wuhn Gy Now WiTh Mohr Than Wuhn GaL Hw Ahr Now AiThr OpshuhnaL Li InTimmaT, Grwp MaiTs And|Ohr Maybee Wed Aizd And A.K.A. Polygyny. Sum Tymz A GaL In A Polygynous Grwp MyT OpT Tu AkT Lez Ohr Bi.

GaL Mohr HeT InTimmuhsee Izm Iz Wun GaL WiTh Mohr Than Wuhn Gy Hw Ahr Now AiThr OpshuhnaL Li InTimmaT, A MaTe Grwp Ohr Wed Aizd, A.K.A. Polyandry. Sum Tymz A Gy In A Polyandrous GrwP MyT OpT Tu AkT Suhm Tymz Fag Ohr Bi.

HermafrodiTe in Simp Lang Iz Maf.

Gay Mafs kan geT kahLd a Maf pehr ohr a Maf Grwp.

A Trisexual A.K.A. Wuhn WiTh [[[Three Dif Djendrd ImTimmaT PahrTnrz]] Now Theengks Uhv, Dreemz Uhv Ohr Duhz InTimmassee WiTh EgzakT Li Three Djendrz.

If 2 Ohr Mohr BeesTs Uv Ehnee KumpaTTibL UhgreemenT IsT InTimmuhsee Prefs ( And If Eech Uhv Them Non-Haz S.T.D.'z Ohr Eech Uhv Them Haz Thuh Saym STD[z] { See hTTps://www.daTingposiTives.com } ) WahnT Tu MeeT and ( DaTe And|Ohr MayT ) And Then ( EeThr { End Their RelaTionship } Ohr ( Uhgree Tu Wed ) Ohr { JusT Remain OpTionally InTihmaT WiTh Eech UhThr Az Long Az Iz HeLThee And Can LasT} ), Then UhThr FoLk ShouLd Non-Shame Thohz KuhmpaTibL UhgreemenT IsTs.


Phile Vrsuhs EroTica

Phile Vrsuhs Erotica

Phile

-phile ETymoLogy

also -phil, word-forming element meaning "one that loves, likes, or is attracted to," via French -phile and Medieval Latin -philus in this sense, from Greek -philos, common suffix in personal names (such as Theophilos), from philos "loving, friendly, dear; related, own," related to philein "to love," which is of unknown origin.

See: https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Category:English_words_suffixed_with_-phile

EroTica In FuhnehTik IngLish Yeeng Voiss Sownd Chahrz Iz EeroTTikuh.

Erotica Dehfihnishuhn

Erotica is any artistic work that deals substantively with erotically stimulating or sexually arousing subject matter. All forms of art may depict erotic content, including painting, sculpture, photography, drama, film, music or literature. Erotica has high-art aspirations, differentiating it from commercial pornography.


PrsuhnaL Spaiss Iz Wun'z ( Aura = Mag FeeLd ).

( Mohr Fahr Uhway Frum Self Bod )

  • Iz ( Less PrsuhnuL Spayss ).

Wen U FrsT See An UThr Prsuhn, IT Iz kuhnsidraT and PoLiTe Tu:

1: MenTalyThink Uv ThaT Prsuhn Az:
* Non-inTihmaT (STranger=STraindjr)
* ( Lyf Ohr Tek ) ChyLd Uhv
* ( Thuh Now Tranz FynyT Mynd = Thuh ALL ParenT ).

2: Non-PuT In Ohr Neer Thuh UThr Prsuhn'z Bod A Dreemd KLohn Uhv Wuhn'z SeLf Bod.

3: PrakTiss Wun Uv Thuh ( Civil RighTs = SihviL RyTs ) Tu Try Tu REED Lrn:
3.1 Maybee Wuhn Ohr Suhm Uhv Ther InTresT(s),
3.2: Maybee Ther ( ( Sepraishuhn Vrsuhs ( InTihnassee = ( InSyd Mag FeeLd ) ) Pref ),

4. If Wuhn Ohr BeTr Mohr Uhv ThaT Wuhn'z MayBee Shehrd InTresTs And|Ohr InTihmuhsee Prefs Ahr KumpaTTibL WiTh A ( Dreem Ohr UhThr AkT ), Then MayBee Ask Prmishuhn Tu Dreem ThaT KuhmpaTibL Dreem Ohr Doo ThaT KuhmpaTibL UhThr AkT.

Eech Uv Thuh InTihmuhsee Prefs Ahr Sum Tymz ( { NachruL Lee WahnTEd} Ohr { Suhm Tymz KonchusLee Chohz} Ohr { Sum Tymz PahrT ToT Tu Ohr PahrT Lrnd By Wuhn Hw Haz Non YeT KompreehendEd A PahrT Uhv ThaT InTihmuhsee Pref), Tho Eech PahrT Uv Eech Uhv Thuh InTihmuhsee Prefs Shoud Nevr Bee ThoT Uv Az MandiTory or ObLigaTory Tu Lrn Ohr Chooz Tu AkT.


Suhm InTihmuhsee Prefs

A HeTerosexuaL IsT, A.K.A. HeT MaiT ) Now This Wuhn Tym GeTs Ohr Tend Tu Suhm Tymz GeT ) InTimmaT Ohr ( Now FLesh Duz Ohr Dreemz Uhv Ohr Theengks Uhv ) InTimmassee wiTh Wuhn Ohr Mohr BeesTs Uhv A Dif Jendr.

HomosexuaLz ( A.K.A. Gayz Ohr Saym SexT MayTs ) now { Duhz Ohr TheengksUv Ohr { Free Lee LeTs } } Sex WiTh Thuh Saym Jendr.

Gay, Wich iz ( Lez Galz Ohr Fag Gyz) In A ( Simp Gay Pehr Ohr Grwp Uhv Gayz ).

If Thuh Gay Ohr UhThr MaiTs Ahr OpshuhnuL KuhnsenT IsTs And Pref Tu Non Skin Trez And Tu Non Rape, Then Less Than Wuhn Shaym SkripT AhThohryzd Twohrdz Ther Iz Good Norm Hab Tu Rep Task Aiz And Tu Teech UhThrz Fohr Ther ATTiTTwdz Twohrdz Thohz Good MaiTs.

A Bisexual MaiT, Ohr Simp Li Bi, now Duhz, Dreemz Ohr Theengks Uhv InTimmassee wiTh 2 Dif SexT BeesTs.

Simp HeT InTimmuhsee Iz Wuhn Gy BeesT And Wuhn GaL BeesT Hw Suhm Tymz DaiT, MaiT And|Ohr Maybee Wed Aiz, And They MyT OpT Tu Uhgree Tu ModdesTee Ohr Tu AkT Az InTimmaT BeesTs.

Gy Mohr HeT InTimmuhsee Iz Wuhn Gy Now WiTh Mohr Than Wuhn GaL Hw Ahr Now AiThr OpshuhnaL Li InTimmaT, Grwp MaiTs And|Ohr Maybee Wed Aizd And A.K.A. Polygyny. Sum Tymz A GaL In A Polygynous Grwp MyT OpT Tu AkT Lez Ohr Bi.

GaL Mohr HeT InTimmuhsee Izm Iz Wun GaL WiTh Mohr Than Wuhn Gy Hw Ahr Now AiThr OpshuhnaL Li InTimmaT, A MaTe Grwp Ohr Wed Aizd, A.K.A. Polyandry. Sum Tymz A Gy In A Polyandrous GrwP MyT OpT Tu AkT Suhm Tymz Fag Ohr Bi.

HermafrodiTe in Simp Lang Iz Maf.

Gay Mafs kan geT kahLd a Maf pehr ohr a Maf Grwp.

A Trisexual A.K.A. Wuhn WiTh [[[Three Dif Djendrd ImTimmaT PahrTnrz]] Now Theengks Uhv, Dreemz Uhv Ohr Duhz InTimmassee WiTh EgzakT Li Three Djendrz.

Momogamy iz having and Luving jusT wun sex parTner or spowss.

Polyamory iz luveeng mohr Than wun uThr dring Thuh saym Tym.

Polygamy Iz Having Mohr Than Wun Sex ParTnr or Spowss, ideally wiTh As SmahL UmounT Uv jealousy Az PossibL.

Serial Monogamy iz having wun parTnr dring a Tym ( in seekwenss ohr Taking Trnz ) ahr The mosT common wayz uv Polygamy.

An Ohrjee iz when 3 ohr mohr fohk uhgree Tu hav sex wiTh eech uhThr.


Phile Vrsuhs Erotica

Phile

-phile ETymoLogy

also -phil, word-forming element meaning "one that loves, likes, or is attracted to," via French -phile and Medieval Latin -philus in this sense, from Greek -philos, common suffix in personal names (such as Theophilos), from philos "loving, friendly, dear; related, own," related to philein "to love," which is of unknown origin.

See: https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Category:English_words_suffixed_with_-phile

EroTica In FuhnehTik IngLish Yeeng Voiss Sownd Chahrz Iz EeroTTikuh.

Erotica Dehfihnishuhn

Erotica is any artistic work that deals substantively with erotically stimulating or sexually arousing subject matter. All forms of art may depict erotic content, including painting, sculpture, photography, drama, film, music or literature. Erotica has high-art aspirations, differentiating it from commercial pornography.

Thuh NeksT KonsepTs Ahr In Thuh Paeej AT

Proh Kuhnsent Ehtikkeht And Non raeep

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Thuh NekST KonsepTs Ahr Fruhm:

How to Teach Consent to Kids in 5 Simple Steps

February 26, 2015 by Michelle Dominique Burk…

Why Kids Should Start Learning About Consent ASAP

The way consent has been framed for most children — in cases where it is explicitly addressed — is that we tell kids something along the lines of “If someone says ‘no,’ then you need to listen to them.”

While this is an important lesson, it is normally as far as the discussion goes.

And simply couching all aspects of consent into this one no-means-no phrasing misses several key components of consent that are essential for kids to learn and employ as they start developing interpersonal relationships.

Discussing consent with a child in only this way proposes that “no” is the only form of non-consent available. This isn’t true, and when children learn about consent in this way, they can grow up with a sense of ambiguity about what constitutes consent.

Because discussing all aspects that encompass boundaries and consent can seem incredibly overwhelming – especially when trying to explain them to a child – many adults shy away from talking to kids about consent in a way that is comprehensive.

However, discussing consent with children in a way that acknowledges its various facets is hugely important because as children go through adolescence and then adulthood, the way that they have learned about consent as a child will inform how they interact with other adults and children in their own interpersonal relationships.

How to Teach Consent

Teaching consent to children can be done in a variety of ways, and teaching consent doesn’t always have to be in the form of a long sit-down discussion about consent (although those discussions are important, too).

In fact, teaching consent is an ongoing process in which different scenarios come up as children grown and learn, and each scenario presents its own questions about the rules of consent.

In general, there are a few rules that you can discuss with kids that can help them understand the basics of consent and help them react appropriately when faced with new situations.

Here are five simple steps to follow when teaching kids about consent:

1. Teach Them How to Ask for Consent

For the most part, kids aren’t in the business of purposely hurting others.

If a child physically interacts with another child without asking (whether that is taking another child’s toy, hugging them, pushing them out of the way, and so forth), it’s usually because they haven’t been taught yet that they are supposed to ask for consent.

It’s easy to respond retroactively to a child who has already physically interacted with another child and gotten a bad response. For example, if a child hugs another child and that child begins to cry, we might be more inclined to respond than if they hug and nothing happens.

That is to say, we don’t usually view something as a “problem” until it is a serious problem. Kids act on impulse, and sometimes they do things that aren’t appropriate without realizing that their actions are inappropriate. This is where teaching kids to ask for consent first is important.

Teaching kids to ask “Is it okay if I…?” before touching another person is essential when we are attempting to help them understand consent.

Kids should be taught to ask this question anytime they are going to physically interact with another child.

Not only does this help them understand that it’s important to ask for permission before touching someone, but it helps with impulse control.

When a child knows that no matter what, they must ask for permission before touching someone else, it creates an extra step in their thought process: Instead of going from wanting to grab someone’s arm to immediately doing it, they are forced to take a moment to think in between those two actions.

2. Let Them Know That Consent Can Be Given or Taken Away Anytime

One aspect of consent that is often met with confusion by children and adults alike is whether or not consent can be taken away once it is given the first time.

In short, yes. It can.

Just because someone gives you consent to touch them once doesn’t mean that their consent is indefinite. Consent can be removed at any point during any interaction.

This is frequently skipped over when we talk about consent to kids because it is something that we, ourselves (both individually and as a society), still present as something ambiguous.

One fear that many survivors of sexual violence have when considering whether or not to report their assault is that they worry that if they have previously consented to physical contact with their assailant, then any subsequent physical contact with that person is lawfully allowed, whether they consented in the moment or not.

We see this a lot when we look at partner sexual assault and date rape. Because the victim has a familiarity with their rapist, they believe that person has a right to physical contact due to the nature of the relationship.

It’s important to explain to children that even in the middle of a physical encounter, consent can be removed, and consenting to one form of physical contact does not automatically mean that you have consented to every physical action.

Consenting to a hug does not mean that a person has also consented to a kiss or any other form of physical contact, and familiarity with a person does not equal consent either.

When we discuss this with children, it is crucial to explain the importance of checking in — frequently — with whomever they are interacting with to make sure that what they are doing is okay.

3. Discuss the Importance of ‘No’

Giving and removing consent should be the same between children, as well as between children and adults.

A child should never be forced to interact physically with an adult. Ever. Yes, even in cases where the adult is a relative, family friend, teacher, coach, and so on.

When discussing consent with kids, you should let them know that they are under no obligation to be hugged, kissed, touched, or otherwise physically interacted with by another person, no matter the relationship.

Often, we force kids to give hugs to relatives, receive a pat on the back from a coach, or give a kiss on the cheek to a family friend because it seems harmless. In the event that a kid says, “I don’t want to,” they are often met with disapproval — and then are forced to do it anyway.

Not only does forcing a child to do these things tell the child that “no” is not an acceptable answer, but the implication is that their refusal is not respected or validated. What this can do is create a situation where a child believes this not only in regard to people that they know, but also in regard to interacting with people that they don’t know.

In some cases, a child’s aversion to being touched by a particular person might even be cause for alarm.

If a child expresses that they do not feel comfortable being touched by someone, their feelings should be validated, and then you can have a discussion about the reasons why the child does not feel comfortable around that person.

The conversation about the importance of “no” should not be one where kids are told, “Don’t ever let a stranger touch you if you don’t want them to.” It should be one where kids are told, “You don’t have to let anyone touch you if you don’t want them to.”

4. Help Them Understand the Difference Between a Non-Response and Enthusiastic Consent

The definition of enthusiastic consent is this: an active, visible, undeniable “yes.”

Usually the idea of enthusiastic consent falls under discussions of sexual interactions. However, introducing the idea of enthusiastic consent when discussing consent with children can combat much of the ambiguity that they might face down the line.

Discussing enthusiastic consent doesn’t necessarily have to be discussed in regard to sexual acts. Rather, the discussion with kids can be about the fact that a non-response is not the same thing as someone saying “yes.”

An inability to vocalize a “no” can happen for a variety of reasons: fear of repercussions, feelings of discomfort, a disability, and so on. So it’s important to explain to kids that just because someone didn’t say “no” does not mean that they are definitely saying “yes.”

This goes to the previous point about always asking for permission to touch someone else. If one kid asks another kid for permission to hug them, if the second kid doesn’t say “no,” that doesn’t mean that hugging them is okay.

What needs to happen before physical contact is made is for the kid to say, “Yes, it is okay for you to hug me.” If the “yes” doesn’t happen, then they shouldn’t be touched.

This is how you teach enthusiastic consent. It doesn’t matter the circumstance. If someone does not respond with a “yes,” then you do not touch them.

5. Follow Your Own Rules for Consent

Children are impressionable. Therefore, as an adult, you have to follow your own rules for consent.

Kids watch adults to learn the appropriate ways to interact in their own interpersonal relationships.

If you don’t ask for consent, if you ignore the word “no,” or if you force consent upon another person, it won’t matter what you tell a child because the rules will become invalidated by your own actions.

You should never force a child to physically interact with you without first asking for their consent. If they say “no,” you shouldn’t tell them that they’re wrong or force them to interact with you anyway.

In addition, the rules for consent that you discuss with a child should be enforced in all situations. Kids should understand that it doesn’t matter if they are at home, at a friend’s house, at school, or on the playground — the rules about consent still apply.

Permission Rather Than Forgiveness

Conversations about consent – especially if those conversations are with children – are not always easy to have.

They are, however, necessary if we’re trying to create a society in which consent is understood and respected by adults and children alike.

It is important to begin talking having these discussions with kids when they’re young so that the decisions that they make as they proceed through adolescence and adulthood are informed by their understanding of what it means to give and receive consent.


Thuh NekST KonsepTs Ahr Fruhm:

Did we ask our friend or relative, if we may touch or play with their things?

To ask to use or touch something, or even enter a room is called Asking for Permission. Sometimes people don’t like it and may even get upset, if you touch their things. Your friend may even fight with you and not speak to you. Because they may feel they are being taken for granted

Asking for permission is social etiquette

Do you remember, we learned about social etiquette and that we must say please and thank you? Well, asking for permission, before we touch or use something that doesn’t belong to us, is also social etiquette.

So, remember to ask for permission the next time!


Thuh NekST KonsepTs Ahr Fruhm:

Thank You Etiquette: Do you say "thank you" the right way?

Thank you. It sounds pretty simple, and you might think you're using it correctly. But are you sure you’re saying thank you every time you should be? And are you saying thank you even when you shouldn’t be?

When to Say Thank You

Thank others for everything from opening a door for you to cleaning up after you. Neglecting to do so only highlights your selfishness.

Another reason to say thank you is for an act of kindness. If your kid's soccer coach invests his or her time and energy in your little tyke, a thank you is in order. You should certainly thank someone who takes a little work off your plate. Even if your coworker is actually expected to do that job for you, saying thank you shows you respect the working relationship and builds trust between you.

Thank others for everything from opening a door for you to cleaning up after you or buying you a meal. Neglecting to do so shines a spotlight on your selfishness and tells others that you think the rest of the world should be doing those things for you. I assure you they should not be…

Say Thank You for Constructive Criticism

When you receive constructive criticism, say thank you. Not everyone is out to get you, so remember to keep yourself in check as you are getting criticism. Always be willing to accept advice from those who you know are interested in your improvement. Then humbly thank them for the things that help you become a better person…

Even if someone criticizes you out of ill will, they still might have a valid point. When you get over your initial reaction to shove them down and take their shoes, examine the critique for its worth and thank them for any valuable advice that may have slipped through their snide comment. Saying thank you in this situation does something very interesting to people. When they see that you are becoming a better person by taking their vicious advice, it confuses them. They might start to see that you aren't the threat they imagined and may begin to treat you differently…

When Should You Send Thank You Notes?

There are many standard reasons to say thank you, including after you receive a gift—whether it’s for your graduation, birthday, baby shower, wedding, etc. It really should go without saying that thanking people for gifts requires sending a handwritten note. And you should get that thank you note out post-haste. Waiting weeks or months is not really appropriate. Holding out for a year, no matter the circumstances, is rude. Of course, the note should be sent even if it's late. Starting thank you notes is usually the hardest part, so just make yourself sit down and write one note. Then write another. If you keep that up, you'll soon find that you're done and your manners will still be in tact.

If you are really delinquent in sending out a thank you note, apologize briefly and humbly. Don't belabor the point, though, as that will cause the recipient to feel like they were a burden to you— and you do not want that…

When Shouldn’t You Say Thank You?

Do not thank someone sarcastically out of frustration. When a cashier who has been working all day accidentally drops your eggs on the ground, saying a condescending, "thanks a lot," is not appropriate—absolutely not appropriate. When your spouse locks the keys in the car on your way to the airport, a sarcastic "thanks" is only going to make that person feel worse. Something I've learned from almost fourteen years of marriage is that sarcasm is not going to make your spouse love you any more. Firing off a sarcastic "thank you" out of frustration is only meant to make yourself feel important. Manners are about making others feel important! Have patience in that situation.

Thank you is a special phrase that should be kept for building someone up. Make it a habit to spend a little time remembering all the things your spouse or significant other does for you— that can be for parents and friends as well. Then, even if it's just a few words, say thank you often.

That goes for your kids too— or those who work for you. Teach appreciation by example. Thank them for jobs well done. Thank them for working hard. Then help them know when it's their turn to thank someone else.

Bottom Line

Thank others for their generosity. Thank others for the little things and not just the big things. Thank others out of humility and not sarcasm. You don't always have to thank with a note or a gift, but try to thank others often.

I sincerely thank you for joining me for this installment of The Modern Manners Guy's Quick and Dirty Tips for a More Polite Life.


Thuh NekST KonsepTs Ahr Fruhm:

Healthy Relationships

What Does Consent Mean?

As important as consent is, we don’t talk about it enough. So it’s understandable if you’re a little unsure about what it is – and what it isn’t.

People typically talk about consent in the context of some kind of sexual or physical activity with a partner. In a healthy relationship, both (or all) partners are able to openly talk about and agree on what kind of activity they want to engage in. Whether it’s holding hands, kissing, touching, intercourse, or anything else, it’s really important for everyone in the relationship to feel comfortable with what’s happening.

You may have heard the phrase “no means no.” That’s totally true, but it doesn’t really provide a complete picture of consent because it puts the responsibility on one person to resist or accept an activity. It also makes consent about what someone doesn’t want to do, instead of being about openly expressing what they do want to do.

Well, How Does It Work?

Some people are worried that talking about or getting consent will be awkward or that it will “ruin the mood,” which is far from true. If anything, the mood is much more positive when both partners feel safe and can freely communicate about what they want. First off, talk about what terms like “hooking up” or “going all the way” mean to each partner. Consider having these conversations during a time when you’re not being physically intimate.

If you are in the heat if the moment, here are some suggestions of things to say:

Are you comfortable?
Is this okay?
Do you want to slow down?
Do you want to go any further?

What consent looks like:

Communicating every step of the way. For example, during a hookup, ask if it’s okay to take your partner’s shirt off. Don’t just assume that they are comfortable with it.

Respecting that when they don’t say “no,” it doesn’t mean “yes.” Consent is a clear and enthusiastic yes! If someone seems unsure, stays silent, doesn’t respond, or says “Maybe…” then they aren’t saying “yes.”

Breaking away from gender “rules.” Girls are not the only ones who might want to take it slow. Also, it’s not a guy’s job to initiate the action (or anything else, really).

What consent does NOT look like:

Assuming that dressing sexy, flirting, accepting a ride, accepting a drink etc. is in any way consenting to anything more.

Saying yes (or saying nothing) while under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

Saying yes or giving in to something because you feel too pressured or too afraid to say no.

Here are some red flags that indicate your partner doesn’t respect consent:

They pressure or guilt you into doing things you may not want to do.

They make you feel like you “owe” them — because you’re dating, or they gave you a gift, etc.

They react negatively (with sadness, anger or resentment) if you say “no” to something, or don’t immediately consent.

They ignore your wishes and don’t pay attention to nonverbal cues that could show you’re not consenting (ex: pulling/pushing away).

Get Consent Every Time

In a healthy relationship, it’s important to discuss and respect each other’s boundaries on the regular. It’s not okay to assume that once someone consents to an activity, it means they are consenting to it anytime in the future as well. Whether it’s the first time or the hundredth time, a hookup, a committed relationship or even marriage, nobody is ever obligated to consent to something, even if they’ve done it in the past. A person can decide to stop an activity at any time, even if they agreed to it earlier. Above all, everyone has a right to their own body and to feel comfortable with how they use it.


CourTesy Tends Tu ReezuLT In (Pure+Good = Non-bad)…

( VolunTay ConsenT Izm ) Iz ( Free Will Tu Kom Yes If U Djeneewin Li Uhgree)

( VoLunTary Non-ConsenT Izm ) Iz ( Free Will Tu Kom No ), espehshaLLee Tu (musT-yes =anTi-no izm).

Every Mynd Should AkT Az A Non-ConsenT IsT Ohr MuTual+ConsenT IsT (OpT Tu Kom Noh Ohr Yes),

*and ( az less az possible or nevr ) az a mandaTory-consenT isT.

OpTional ConsenT Izm Iz Oft Mohr ConsideraTe And Wyz

Than:

  • mandiTory consenT (musT yes and anTi-no) izm
  • and anTi consenT (wohn'T yes) izm.

Must-yess ists aka anTi-No IsTs ShouLd GeT Told "NO, I Won'T LeT U In!!!"

Last Lyn Uhv Tekst In Paeej Naeemd " Kuhnsent Ehtikkeht ".


Kuhnsent Ehtikkeht Iz Thuh Betr Opshuhn Wen Rehkuhmended With Proh Non-Raeep.


Proh Non raeep

( Raeep = Rape ) iz The naym of Sex rong.

Raeep iz The naeem Uv vyolayshuhn fuk ThaT duz koz

  • ( Min DisComforTIng Tu Varying UhmownTs Uv SensT Eemohshun Uhv FeeLeeng { TresspasT UhgensT } ),
    • Tu ( Less Ohr Mohr ) { sehveerLee } ViolaTed Rongd,
  • Tu FuLLee InTenss TrahmahTyzd ReepeeTedLy SehveerLee VyohLaeeTed FeeLingz )
  • Uhv sex tresspass violayTed rongd.

Thuss raeep iz nevr okay.

Uh Non-Raeep Ist Attittuud Theenks That Raeep Iz:

1: uh rong attittuud in an akt,
2: uh rong attittuud in a reelaeeshuhnship,
3: uh rong attittuud in a room,
4: uh rong attittuud in a home,
5: and shuurlee uh rong theem in uh sohsyehtee.

Proh Non-raeep!!!


Rape is vioLaishuhn rong and eiTher:

  • corrupT (a mix uhv uhnHeLThee uhnkuhnsidraT fahr Too selfish undeezrvd breef plezhr wyl kozeeng:
  • Fruhm LeSS bad violaTed Trez Rongd=suhfreeng vicTim) ohr
  • 100% bad (non-plezhrd and non-neuTral) skin ThaT felT uhsulT Trezd Thuhs kozzeeng a wound Ohr mulTiple woundz ThaT duhz koz sufr feelz.

Thuh NexT TexT Duhz Teech:

Pro Thuh LeesT Uhmownt Uhv Rape Az PossibL…

Pro Az Much Non Rape Az Can Bee…

IT Iz Civvilyzd KrTesee Mannrz Tu:

* Ask Sum Ask Suhm SkripT Lyk "May I…"

  • Pree Self Bod Tryz InTimmuhsee AkT Twohrdz An UhThr

* Then Honr And ReespekT Thuh Prsuhn'z RyT Tu SeT Ohr Looss Bowndz

* By Non VyohleyTeeng WuhT A Prsuhn Komd NO Tu)

  • Iz AhLWayz Peewr Good Non (Trez=violaTion), Thus BeTr Than Rape.

Rape Iz UnCivviLyzd Rude (dev ill)=(Devvelluhp dis eez)=(Koz Tu Suhfr and Thus FeeL unhappy) sex (Trez=vyohleyshuhn) rong ThaT norm duhz koz aT leesT suhm suhfr feelz

A mohr violaTed vicTim Duhz Senss mohr bad rongd sufr feelz.


Thuh NeksT TekST Wuhz Fruhm:

UN Makes History on Sexual Orientation, Gender Identity

Human Rights Body Establishes an Independent Expert

(Geneva) – The United Nations Human Rights Council, in a defining vote, adopted a resolution on June 30, 2016, on “Protection against violence and discrimination based on sexual orientation, and gender identity,” to mandate the appointment of an independent expert on the subject. It is a historic victory for the human rights of anyone at risk of discrimination and violence because of their sexual orientation or gender identity, a coalition of human rights groups said today. This resolution builds upon two previous resolutions, adopted by the Council in 2011 and 2014.
United Nations Secretary General Ban Ki-moon addresses the 25th session of the Human Rights Council at the United Nations in Geneva March 3, 2014
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United Nations Secretary General Ban Ki-moon addresses the 25th session of the Human Rights Council at the United Nations in Geneva, March 3, 2014. © 2014 Reuters/Denis Balibouse

The Core Group of seven Latin American countries – Argentina, Brazil, Chile, Colombia, Costa Rica, Mexico, Uruguay – and 41 additional countries jointly presented the text.

The resolution was adopted by a vote of 23 in favor, 18 against and six abstentions.

“This is truly momentous,” said Micah Grzywnowicz, of the Swedish Federation for LGBTQ Rights (RFSL). “This is our opportunity to bring international attention to specific violations and challenges faced by transgender and gender non-conforming persons in all regions. It’s time for the international community to take responsibility to ensure that persons at risk of violence and discrimination because of gender identity are not left behind.”

“It’s a historic resolution,” said Josefina Valencia, of the International LGBTI Association for Latin America and the Caribbean, ILGA LAC. “Latin America has played a very important role to build a common course for the advancement of our human rights. We are proud of the international solidarity and the commitment shown by States for equality.”

The positive vote responds to a joint campaign of a record 628 nongovernmental organizations from 151 countries calling on the Human Rights Council to adopt the resolution and create the independent expert.

“It is important to note that around 70 percent of the organizations are from the global south,” said Yahia Zaidi of MantiQitna Network. “This is a powerful cross-regional message of strength to the UN to protect the rights of LGBTI persons. The independent expert will be a focal point for all violations based on SOGI and hence help grassroots organizations to better utilize the otherwise complex labyrinth of the UN system.”

The expert will be tasked with assessing implementation of existing international human rights law, identifying best practices and gaps, raising awareness of violence and discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity, engaging in dialogue and consultation with states and other stakeholders, and facilitating provision of advisory services, technical assistance, capacity-building, and cooperation to help address violence and discrimination on these grounds.

“To have an independent expert can be a ‘game-changer’ in counteracting violence which fuels the HIV epidemic in key populations and more specifically in LGBT communities,” said Alain Kra of Espace Confiance.

“It will ease the work of all human rights defenders and it is essential for our governments and people to have the knowledge on how to protect LGBT communities from any violence and discrimination they face,” added Joleen Mataele of the Tonga Leiti’s Association.

Although a number of hostile amendments seeking to introduce notions of cultural relativism were adopted into the text by vote, the core of the resolution affirming the universal nature of international human rights law stood firm.

“Today, the UN took a historic step forward,” said John Fisher, Geneva director at Human Rights Watch. “By creating a UN expert, the Human Rights Council has given official voice to those facing violations because of their sexual orientation or gender identity the world over. There can be no turning back, and we look forward to working with civil society colleagues and the new UN expert toward a world free from violence and discrimination for all people regardless of sexual orientation and gender identity.”

Results of the vote

Voting in favor of the resolution
Albania, Belgium, Bolivia, Cuba, Ecuador, El Salvador, France, Georgia, Germany, Latvia, Macedonia, Mexico, Mongolia, Netherlands, Panama, Paraguay, Portugal, Republic of Korea, Slovenia, Switzerland, United Kingdom, Venezuela, Vietnam

Voting against the resolution
Algeria, Bangladesh, Burundi, China, Congo, Cote d’Ivoire, Ethiopia, Indonesia, Kenya, Kyrgyzstan, Maldives, Morocco, Nigeria, Qatar, Russia, Saudi Arabia, Togo, United Arab Emirates

Abstaining on the resolution
Botswana, Ghana, India, Namibia, Philippines, South Africa

Supporting organizations

Access Chapter
AIDES France
Amnesty International
ARC International
Clóset de Sor Juana AC
Egale Canada Human Rights Trust
Espacio de Mujeres Lesbianas Salvadoreñas por la Diversidad (ESMULES)
Federatie van Nederlandse Verenigingen tot Integratie van Homoseksualiteit - COC Nederland
Foundation for SOGI Rights and Justice (FORSOGI)
FRI, the Norwegian Organisation for Sexual and Gender Diversity
GALANG Philippines
Human Rights Law Centre
Human Rights Watch
Iranti-org
International Commission of Jurists
ILGA LAC, Asociación Internacional de Lesbianas, Gays, Bisexuales, Trans e Intersexuales para América Latina y el Caribe
International Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Association (ILGA)
Lesbians, Gays and Bisexuals of Botswana (LEGABIBO)
LGBT Denmark - the National Organization for Gay Men, Lesbians, Bisexuals and Transgendered People
MantiQitna Network
OutRight Action International
Pacific Sexual Diversity Network
Pan Africa ILGA
Proyecto Arcoiris, colectivo anticapitalista e independiente
Samoa Faafafine Association
Swedish Federation for LGBTQ Rights (RFSL)
TLF Share Collective – Philippines
Tonga Leitis Association